The 'relationships' columns at Salon.com have scared me straight, though.
+ a lesbian woman who had hooked up with guys lately because it was easier, the relationship equivalent of Homer eating the dirt under the bleachers.
+ a polyamorous girl hoping to bonk a hot coworker from a different generation, who thought he might not get what that relationship would be. Who has the psychic energy to create and manage the turbulent sea of sexual relationship on a case-by-case basis with everything to be negotiated every time?
+ a woman whose relationship with her partner might have gone better without his kids, but after it broke down and the kids grew up, missed them terribly. Just sad, but written with a tone of surprise, as if it was news that every 'yes' says a thousand 'no's, and so there are some advantages in making it the biggest 'yes' you can.
+ a columnist writing about a hookup with her favorite male porn star and how it was too overlaid with performance to be as flat out enjoyable as she'd imagined.
+ the gay guy who was checking out a neighbour on grindr and gradually realised he was quite sick with sex addiction.
The men who have sex most (more than 20 times per month, which sounds exhausting) are almost exclusively doing it with one partner (who is also having a lot of sex) in a relationship. Although there is a lot of whining about how difficult a well worked out, committed relationship is, I think the alternatives are short-term easy, long-term bad for you.
* JP Morgan reference. He was talking about money. I linked a long time ago to an article about this. I, at that time, suggested that Nietzsche's reprehensible epigram alleging that pregnancy was the answer to the question of female unintelligibility was equally applicable to men. It was awesome.
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